style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”在变得会聊天之前，很长一段时间都是被动的聊天，别人找我聊，我回别人，因为不会聊天，不知道聊啥好，聊什么有意义</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”但是通过接话练就了一身<strong接话的能力</strong，有点像把球扔给你，你接住并传回去，不会接话容易各聊各的，变成浪费口水的无效沟通</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”接球与扔球的过程可以看作一次聊天，如何把话说出去，如何接住别人的话，并产生一些推进呢？</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”比如同事说，早上好，你也回早上好，就不知道说什么了，这时候可以从三个方面回</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”<strong1.话题延伸</strong</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”比如女生可能会聊衣服包，口红，化妆品，男的聊股票，游戏，聊共同的朋友，聊最近的新闻，昨天那个新闻看到了吗？</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”找不到话题可以看看微博热搜榜</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”<strong2.接着以前的话聊</strong</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”上次聊到买车，你最近车买了吗？</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”上次聊到追女生，上次说的女生最近进展怎么样？</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”上次聊到基金，最近基金怎么样？</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”<strong3.拉近关系</strong</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”比如你想跟对方关系更进一步，比如你觉得这个人不错，很想跟他关系更好一点，比如对方是你喜欢的人。</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”这时候可以带点情绪和关心，最近过得怎么样？好久没看到你了，你最近忙啥，做的怎么样，需要帮忙吗？注意身体，压力大不大，要不要周末去**？</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;;”也可以打趣，调节气氛，或者表示认可，带来一些好的情绪。让人感觉跟你聊天，如沐春风。</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;Helvetica Neuequot;; min-height: 15px;”<br/</p style=”margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 13px; line-height: normal; font-family: quot;PingFang SCquot;;”这一篇比较基础，但是也是重要的一段经历，大家想听什么，或者建议，可以下面评论哈</p<br/</p